I am the worst secret keeper ever - OR - the best! I can't tell anyone so I will essentially tell everyone.
my "best friend" is having an affair with a married man who is her boss no less, and she doesn't know I know. I have no idea how to bring it up or what to say. i have talked to my husband about it, and his brother and my other best friend, who by t he way shares her name, and the other best friends boy friend. no one is really connected, except through me. I am not prepared to tell our mutal friends, I don't really want to make her look bad, but I do have this feeling like they should know the kind of person they are inviting into their family.
so any way, I have been avoiding her for a week or so now, and I'm not sure how to bring up the fact that
#1 - she is having a sexual affair with a married ma
#2 - she didn't have faith in our relationship to bring this up before it happened or as it was happening.
we have been friends for 17+ years. more than half my life. I can't believe that THIS is how it is going to end. I am heart broken. she has been my bossom friend for more than half my life - she was MY maid of honor at my wedding. I was marriend before and my husband at the time cheated on me and she was the one that new FIRST and told ME! how could she do this to someone else when she knows what it can do to a family. FYI - I am happy now, married to my soul mate if there ever was one - the detail is gone, but the experience is still very real... I went from 120 lbs to 90 - she was there. I could eat, sleep or think, she was therel. she was there the day I got OK. when I knew that I would make it through. she was there when I went on my first date after the split. she was there for all the subsiquent break ups - she was there when I meet my husband, she helped him pick our my BEAUTIFUL ring. she stood by me at my wedding. and 7 weeks ago she came to visit me in the hospital when I gave birth to my first child, a daughter. and now when my little girl grows up and see pictures of me from the age of 13-30 , with this woman by my side that she has never known she'll ask who she is and I'll just say, " that was my best friend." I can't believe my daughter will never know her
why?
because I can't bring THAT into my family. I don't want a woman who would sleep with a married man to be spending time with my framily and infecting me and them.
BUT...
how to I tell her. How do I say, "oh, by the way I know your're fucking a married man, and I don't want to be your friend anymore..." I just don't know.
gosh, i always thought that one day she would meet a great guy and i would be able to repay the favor by helping him pick our her ring, and then i would be her matron of honor and through her a shower and do a reading at the wedding - that will never happen now, I'm so sad!
i have to tell her soon - I can't live like this
